Trial – Error – Retrial – Understanding 2012 – 2017

Re-Start – Aim of Achievements 2018…

29th December 2017 – Well 2 days till the end of 2017… It felt like yesterday when I was reflecting on 2016… Now I find myself reflecting on 2017…

Time sure does fly when you’re living your life!  Having fun and enjoying the good times…

Oh! But there are also the unfortunate events which crop up too… Must not forget them… You see the last five years of my life have been adjusting to learning and to accept those unfortunate some seen and some unforeseen life’s events…

From 2012 My Life Took A Whole New Turn and A Whole New Meaning!

Not much of what I had planned took place!

A Whole Lot of Unfortunate Seen and Unforeseen Events Took Place…

In Health Love Family and Work…

It has a domino effect, when one pillar goes down the other pillar goes down too!

Rising up again was a huge challenge!  I had to hit rock bottom first…

How???

I thought I had hit rock bottom when I separated my husband back in 2006…

Wow!  I thought that was my worst ever.  Looks like I thought wrong eh….

That’s in my Joint Venture book Transform Your Life 2.

Now I have new setbacks and challenges to overcome.  There are too many so one at a time eh!

2012-2017 A space of 5 Years.

By far not 4 weddings and 1 funeral…

But… 5 Very close people’s funerals took place…

Thank God a few weddings took place too, but the deaths over powered me and I was not able to enjoy all the good things happening around me, 3 girl friends gone in a space of 2 months of ill health in 2012.

A month later my dearest friend George, God Rest All Their Eternal Souls.

Externally of course all looked fine I put on a brave face and a fake smile and carried on with everyday life, actually it was hard for me to do even that, it’s what went on internally that really mattered in fact I lost my smile, my face took a more stern look as my inner self felt shattered and crumbled.

Just as I thought I got over one death another one came and just as I got over the next one another came on… and on and on and on until.  I realized I had better start getting used to this because it’s part of our existence.  One day we all must leave, somehow some way we will depart from our earthly presence.

Saying that now in 2017 it is easy… At the time the pain endured was unbearable.

Having to hide my feelings and get a grip in order to portray strength to others was the hardest of all, especially when children are involved my children or how about the parent of the young person gone on 14th October 2012, and me trying to stay strong months on end for that mother who lost a son just like that.  Spending the time with her hoping to give her comfort but really struggling so much with the pressure of my inner pain and loss too.

How about the untold time spent with a wife who lost her husband suddenly 2016 who had her 10 year old son questioning and seeking answers and his feelings running hot and cold, and the mother finding it hard to cope and deal with her loss how can she even support her child and his needs for his loss.

Then the sudden death and shock of my beloved brother-in-law 13th December 2016… What a blow that was… Oooooo I can feel it now like a spear to the chest.  He left 3 precious children behind and a wife who adored him.  Just like that gone!  How do you stand by any of those precious souls?  Who needs you more? How do you keep yourself going strong?  What a toll on anyone.  Spiritual healing seemed the only way to get through this, how devastated we all felt and each with equal rights to morn.

All of this took a toll on my health too, another book another day!

My most recent loss 17th September 2017 was my precious Grandmother, my rock!  She kept me going through the toughest times by giving me words of wisdom and edging me on to stay strong no matter what, she always said “My dear granddaughter” she would start to say to me, and every time as though she would be saying it for the first time and I would sit and listen and indulge in it as if I would be hearing it for the first time.  “Yes Grandma I am all ears… tell me…”  So she starts “My mother would call me over and ask me to look out of the window, of course back in the old days there were no buildings in sight and the view was just land and sea view.”  Ahhhhh I would acknowledge as she tried to give me a visual icon of the days she was brought up.  Hmmmm she would say “Daughter what do you see? “  She as a child would respond. “I see calm waters!” Ahaaaaa her mother would say to her, and then she would stay silent.  The next day her mother would call her over again and say “Daughter what do you see?” my grandmother again as a child would reply “I see tides!” hmmmmmmm her mother would stay silent again.  Then she would say “you see my dear daughter everyday is different just like the weather.  As the weather changes and the sea has one day calm and one day tides that is how our life is, but know this there are also shipwrecks.  So take every day as it comes and see all challenges through with a brave face.  So she says “You see granddaughter it is with that in mind that I have managed to get through my challenges in my life, and just make sure you do the same!”  Her words come out at me like words of steel, full dynamic she is steadfast at how she has managed to get through her life.

So you see she kind of prepared me for her also leaving at some point.  Even though it was such a painful experience I had been preparing for it with her precious help.  I will always be feeling forever grateful to my precious grandmother.

Too many years of sorrow and feeling the loss of loved ones broke me, weakened me, and humbled me but I found it also strengthened me.

I know now it all had to happen as we say everything happens for a reason.  You just never know it at the time.

As I was losing my precious friends and relations! Other friends of mine where losing their parents, husbands, father, child, lover so I tried to put myself in their shoes and to get a better understanding of what was happening, by trying to go to the deeper level of understanding and applying life coaching skills by listening with all of my senses.

Wanting to find out how much more tragic it was for each of them to tolerate the pain and hurt of their loss spending much time with them and in their sorrow.

I know I have taken this end of year 2017 reflection to the deepest and darkest level but you see it is the light at the end of the tunnel that always intrigues me, through darkness comes the light, light through the keyhole, where there is dark there is light.

The questions are:

Do we actually learn from these unforeseen unfortunate circumstances?

Can we understand for what reason these circumstances take place around us?

Do we have an understanding of these circumstances in order to take the lesson in a humble manner and see the good in it?

Or is it just easier to brush them over and just get on with the rest of our life with no real understanding of what has taken place and why!

Oh Yes WHY?

There certainly is a WHY in all that takes place!

To me it is like a treasure hunt, I get given certain clues to figure it out and as time moves on the pieces of the puzzle unravel, one clue leads to another and another.  Of course you have to keep your radars on and your senses need to be activated to be able to receive and decode the information received.  No easy task for anyone, we all need a little help.

Help comes of course if we seek it or ask for it, it comes in the most mysterious of ways!

Mainly it comes from the people around us, some come and go and some come and stay they see us through to the next level in our lives path, and of course all goes much smoother when we are exceptive of those people playing a major role in our lives for our ongoing change and upcoming aims and achievements.

I have learned to ask for higher guidance and for sure for holy intervention where needed, I have tried to have Trust and Faith not always easy and it has been a struggle for me to say the least.

I have managed to allow myself room for ongoing growth, hard as it has been I have managed to drop as much of my ego, even though there is more to drop its a process I am allowing time to deal with.  Having awareness of this is just as important as allowing for the process of change.  Change of course for the better, better as I can judge from how I have dealt with my past events as to the most recent.

So I leave you with a few deepest thoughts to think through and reflect on your past few years…

How was it for you?

Was there a learning curve for you?

What can you learn from the events in your life that took place?

What Aims and Achievements do you have for 2018?

Oh I Have Plenty!

As I Have Plenty Of Challenges Up Ahead Too….

In Trust & Faith

May 2018 Be the Better Year Ever!

In God I Trust

Andrea Louca

Your Destiny Awaits You

 

 

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THE BUT SYNDROME!

I want to write a book BUT!

I want to have a relationship BUT!

I want to have a job BUT!

I Love My Husband BUT!

I Love My Wife BUT!

I Want to be well BUT!

I Trust in God BUT!

I Want to toughen Up BUT!

I Want to go away on holiday BUT!

I Love My Sister BUT!

I Love My Brother BUT!

I Want To Stop Smoking BUT!

I Want To Go On A Diet BUT!

I Know I Should Read More BUT!

I Want A New Car BUT!

 

THE BUT SYNDROME AS I CALL IT…

I Have Been An Observer & Global Listener from A Very Young Age!  It is something I did more of, rather than speak I was more of a listerner.  I prefered to study people and listen to them rather than to host conversations! I was also a very shy unconfident being! As I grew older I read self developement books which helped me brush up on my own flaws and weaknesses then at the age of 38 I decided to become A Life Coach and that helped me Master the Code of Listening to people on A Global Scale…

I also found the majority of people would speak out as I mentioned above!

Any question I would ask them their answer would be With A BUT!

This made me very aware of The BUT SYNDROME as I Call It…. I found it helped many of my clients when I would make them aware of what they were saying!  It helped even more as I would stall at the word BUT!

By Responding to them BUT WHAT????  Then I would be silent and allow for them to figure it out for themselves!  This is like a bad habit and needs to be changed!  So if you can bring your attention to it then it is possible to transform this from a negative situation into a positive one where we can have better outcomes to our lives rather than having short lived desires due to the BUT SYNDROME!

Absolutely Amazing Awesome Changes As We Mind Shifted and Steered Off The BUT SYNDROME!

Raising Awareness Is All That Is Needed To Bring About Change!

IT’S ALL BUT A MATTER OF CHOICE!

You Can Decide To Stay In THE BUT SYNDROME!

Or

YOU CAN MIND SHIFT OUT OF THE BUT SYNDROME JUST BY DELETING IT OUT OF YOUR EVERYDAY VOCABULARY…

IT’S ALL BUT A MATTER OF CHOICE!

Your Destiny Awaits You!

In Trust & Faith

Andrea Louca

Authentic You!

Four Years Ago I was invited to speak to A Small Group Of Parents and Children at an Event taking place by different Life Coaches.

I chose it to be about Building The Bridge of Communication Between Parents and Their Children/Teenagers or Even Teacher/Children Relationships.

It was my first speach so I moulded it how I wanted it!

I put together a small powerpoint presentation and plucked up the courage to present it in My Way!

THE WAY THAT WORKED FOR ME!

My way!  Which was from the heart and from my own personal experiences which I had lived and experienced difficult moments in my own home with my two children my daughter 6 years old and my son 9 years old.

I knew I had to bring about change!

How?

By first realising I had to change things about me, it was my behaviour towards certain situations which was causing conflict in my home and conflict behaviour from my children.

I decided to observe my self more and what I was doing and saying rather than the full focus on the children and always having the need to correct them and their behaviour.  Which by my observations over the years I found this is what most if not all parents do.

So I looked to correct my behaviour and I was honest enough to let them know about my wrong behaviour and how I was going to make many amends and adjustments in order for us to be happier.

I started my self observation when my daughter was 6 years old and my son was 9 years old, and so by the time of the speach I had a good 5 years of total transformation in my home from all angles!  My behaviour and my childrens behaviour.

What I found with my observation was tragic, I found I was on the phone alot with friends mostly talking about negative issues and constantly ushing my kids away to their rooms.  As time went by I fast forwarded and took my self forward to the time that my son would be 16 years old when he would be opening the door and rushing out of the house without caring to give me any indication to what he is up to and where he is going.  My fast forward vision showed me calling out to my son “where are you going”? and him responding rudely “what do you care and why should I answer to you”?  “You kept ushering me away when I most needed you at my delicate age of 9 and now that I am 16 I don’t need you to be bothered about me.  I needed you then, now I don’t care if you care”.  and you know what he would have been right to have that attitude with me.

WOW! What a fast forward vision.

That surley got me around to making drastic changes with myself a.s.a.p.

I got a sudden urge to make changes.

I found involving them, having sit down talks at certain times in the day and planning our day ahead always made it easier when bed time arose.

I found drawing a pie chart of the hours in the day and helping them see how many hours they have ahead of them in order to eat, do their homework, rest and play and of course have quality time with me just before they went to bed worked wonders! In fact I did not have to ever mention bed time!  They would be ready prepared and happy as pie to put themselves to bed by 21.30.

This was because I helped them understand if I gave them quality time together before 21.30 then mummy also desreves time out to be able to have her own quality time and peace before she went to bed.  They both understood me and complied with me which was truly a touching experience.

We had gained mutual respect and Understanding by regular communication and interaction.  I would ask for their opinion and let them make decisions and in time we over came our own huge challenges and were on a very good road to having a wonderful harmonious environment at home, which was the goal I had set ahead for us.

A few tips:

1.  Always cooking together in the kitchen after school.  (Making it fun and letting them choose from different food types, ones that they would enjoy eating after helping them understand the importance of eating all types of nutritional foods for our health.  ie and our greens.

2.  Sitting to read and do their homework with them when they felt up to it, not when I felt like it.  I would just help them a bit by giving them a few choices.  ie Before their meal, after their meal, before a nap after their nap.  And so it helped them make the right decision for themselves. It Helped them become eager to want to do homework rather than the stress of being told to do an everyday routin which you could not get out of.  They learned to love and want to do their homework.  It got to the point when my son was 15 years and 16 he would summon me home to keep him in check as he found that when he was home alone he would get distracted. So he wanted me home to read his assignments out to me.  That was for sure the funniest of times and I felt very proud and thought wow it has all been totally worth all the effort.

3.  Always eating together at the dinner table and having constructive conversation.  As they got a little older we would sit on the couch and have a movie night just before they went off to bed.  Always their own choice of movie.  When the movie ended they knew to head off to their beds by 21.30.

4.  Face book days krept up and I allowed them to have accounts which we had discussed I would check and know everything up until a certain age where of course they would be able to have their full privacy.  We set time frame where by they would sit for an hour a day and as they got older a little longer.  Another funny time was when my daughter at 14 asked me to ban her and convoscate her phone so she does not over spend time in Facebook.  Absolutely amazing achievements.

5.  Friend days, where they had their friends round or where they could sleep over at a friends.

We learned to Respect each other as unique individuals and learned to have full understanding of each others needs and wants.

Both my children where at my speach as I wanted them both there.

As my speach went on I had great interaction with the parents and when It came to an end, we let both of them speak and share their own story and experience of how we all managed to co-operate together.

Knowing there where a few life coaches in the room I approached a Mrs Irene with a big smile and I asked her for her much valued feed back.  She responded with gleaming eyes and shear enthusiasm “My Dear You Were AUTHENTIC!”

I replied Happily “That’s All I’ve Ever Wanted”. “To make a difference in an AUTHENTIC WAY”

She replied “Believe Me You Are Making A Difference” Your Children Are Living Proof”

It was such a beautiful ending to the evening!  The Acknowledgement of an experienced Coach.

The Cherry On the Icing of the Cake!

So Be Authentic!

In Trust & Faith 

Your Destiny Awaits You!

Andrea Louca 

Riches Of Another Kind…

Riches Of Another Kind…

First Richness To Ask Forgiveness From The Heart And Let Go Of Pain And Anger

Second To Be Humble And Let Others Help

Third To Love Even Though There Is No Love Back

Fourth To Hold Back Any Feelings Of Rage

Fifth To Trust And Have Faith

Sixth To Have Patience That All Will Come To Be Good In The End

Seventh To Accept The Downfalls In Life, Even Illness

Eighth To Understand There Is A Reason For Everything

Ninth That We All Have Our Cross To Bear

Tenth That God Knows What Is Best For Us

May Love Conquer Our Hearts and May We Be Able To Share With Others The Inner Depth Of The Love That Has Come To Light.
Learn To Master Your Emotions
Allow Room for Love, Compassion and Understanding.

This All Allows Room for Forgiveness!

Enlighten Yourself!

In Trust & Faith

You will be glad you did!

Andrea Louca with Love… ❤
God Bless
Your Destiny Awaits You! 

 

Transform Your Life Book 2

I often visualized myself being able to achieve more, being an
inspiration to many.

I was a fighter and wanted to stand up and fend for others, and had been that way from a very young age.

Now I needed to fend for my rights as a young mother and protect myself
and my young children.

I felt trapped within myself, unable to face the fears of breaking away from abuse.
I had no self-esteem. I was born with a blood disorder called Thalassaemia.

Every 15 days I needed two units of blood and was told by doctors I may never conceive.

My unshakable faith saw me through all the challenges, and today I have two children.
I dwelt on my decision long, over two months, and finally said, “No more!” No more……………………….

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In Trust & Faith

Your Destiny Awaits You

Andrea Louca

 

 

Thank You Gemma Anne Fox…

Dear Gemma!!!

A Dear Friend Of My Sister Marinas which I Just Recently Met !

I Am So Grateful For Your Kind Gesture…

Thank You So Much … Your Truly Special.

May Our Lord Jesus Christ Guide & Protect You On Your Life’s Path… 

Wishing You Many Blessings On Your Life’s Path and Journey…

In Trust & Faithimage

Your Destiny Awaits You!

Andrea Louca

Change and Transformation!  For the Better, Shall I Bother Yes or No?

The heart ache that comes along with Change and Transformation at first is certainly unbearable.

Not an easy task to begin with, but like all things time helps this process get easier.

It’s just a matter of, are we up for the Challenge ahead of us?

Do we know what is to follow?

Do we understand what is happening and why it is happening?

Can we bear to stick to it? Or do we give up at the first obstacle?

It breaks my heart when I see the effort that some people put into changing themselves for the better, trying to Transform themselves, but others around them are not of Understanding or unable to Acknowledge the fact, or Recognize this process.

It is hard enough as it is, to step up make the decision and go through the process of Change and Transformation without having to have pettiness going on.

Unfortunately this is very hard to avoid, and one of the biggest challenges of the Transformational Period.

How do we go about Change, when others around us do not allow for our own Transformation?

When people see what they want to see from their own eyes and they portray you, and who they think you are and what you’re about through their eyes?

What do you do???

Do you try and justify yourself???

But why should you have to???

After All It Is Their Judgment of You…

If you know yourself, Your True Self Worth, Values and most of all your True Intentions, then it should not have to Matter!!!

Oh! But our inner voice does not seem to let things go, and we have and feel the need to justify ourselves…

The easiest thing to do is to sit there, back chatting, debating, justifying…

But is it the easiest thing???

Or do we make it harder and worsen things for ourselves, creating enemies…

Or giving people our friends, family more reason to add more oil to the fire by finding your best friend or their best friend and holding a negative bitter marathon conversation all in your name…

Wow! We are so privileged when that takes place… Hours and hours of our name been used.

Do we really want our name to be misused like that, maybe we should think twice before we react.

Otherwise the effect is truly damaging! All the bad energy forces coming together and taking affect…

Oh! Privileged one totally in your name!

The end RESULTS being…

Bitterness, Bitterness and More Bitterness on All Angles…

I believe, we are all better than that!

Much Better Than That!

So how do we avoid such unpleasant treatment?

Going on, what I have managed to achieve and of course making a constant everyday effort.

I always try to see further than what is happening at the given time…

I allow for all to be said…

Taking as much as I can with a brave face, I mean just how long can somebody sit there running you to the ground, they have got to stop at some point, don’t they??? Here I smirk as I know some people just don’t know when to stop…

The point is how much patience do you or I have to allow for them to unload.  Me? I have found great patience over time.

One thing for sure I know, since I have been using this tactic for a few years now, it does get easier…
If you get to the deeper level of understanding and really want to understand know this that what most people are actually seeking is ATTENTION… They are craving for ACKNOWLEDGMENT and in need of a serious case of RECOGNITION on all levels.

This is a process which takes a while, meaning time to get a grip of, and having to learn to –

Conquer Our Emotions.

Why do I say this???

I am saying this as I am still working on it myself!  Conquering Our Emotions needs everyday effort.  Depending what our next challenge lying ahead is.  Nobody knows the next challenge up ahead of them.

Just as you get over one challenge another one appears, so it is a constant everyday effort.

I have been working on it for a good 4 years now, so you can imagine the time frame taken to accomplish this.

How long you ask me?

Time frame is unknown! For sure it depends on how much personal time and effort you are willing to put in.

What means you use to accomplish Conquering Your Emotions?  There are various different ways, and combinations.

It can all take place the minute you take the decision to make the Transformation.

So Hold On To Your Self Worth by Respecting Yourself and try using the Silence is Golden Rule.

True Transformation For Me Is Like Breaking In A Stallion.

Let True Transformation Begin and Evolve. It’s Up To You the Decision Is Yours!

Try Breaking In Yourselves First By Conquering Your Emotions!  Be A True Stallion!

God Bless

In Trust and Faith

Andrea Louca

Your Destiny Awaits You!

http://www.loucaandrea.com